The 30-Day Minimalism Game

Now that I have a house of my own, I’ve been trying to keep it clean and as junk-free as possible. I’ve been slowly getting rid of old clothes I haven’t worn in awhile, but it’s definitely a big process after moving all of my stuff in.

I got coffee with my sweet friend Melody yesterday, and she suggested doing something called the “30-Day Minimalism Game.” I was intrigued when she told me the very simple concept: get rid of one thing on the first day, two things on the second, three on the third, all the way up until you reach 30 days. By the end of the challenge — if you can actually complete it — you will have gotten rid of hundreds of things.

In all honesty I don’t think I can make it to day 30 because I really don’t think we have that much junk in our house, but I’m really curious to try and see how far I get. Go give my Instagram account a follow if you want ton see what I get rid of every day, and want a chance to take some of my stuff off my hands. I’ll be donating most of it to Purple Heart or The Salvation Army, but I’m always happy for a friend to get something they need, too!

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Here’s to decluttering my house and making some extra room for the things I actually use and to breathe. Day 1: Finally throwing out my old Brooks tennies!

A New Beginning

I’ve learned something really important from my old relationship and for my new ones moving forward.

Once again, this kind of breaks my heart that I ever thought like this, but in my long-term relationship I thought it was “normal” for guys to not be as emotional or care as much about your relationship.

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While guys might not wear their heart on their sleeve as often, I have found that there are so many men who want to spend their free time with me, and want to talk on the phone and want to make me happy and treat me well. They enjoy planning dates that they know I’ll really love and appreciate, and genuinely enjoy hearing about how my day went.

One thing casually dating people has taught me is that there are so, so many guys out there. Just like girls, they are all very different from one another. If one of them you really like doesn’t text you back or take initiative, don’t fret. You can and will like someone else one day who’s heart will skip a beat when they see your name pop up on their phone. You’ll meet someone who isn’t afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve for you and who will make you feel loved and secure.

Please don’t settle for a less than stellar relationship just because you think it’s the norm.

Please know that there are so many different people in the world, and that someone will love you the way you want and deserve to be loved. It’s not normal to have to fight for your significant others’ attention. There are people who want to just give it to you freely.

That still blows my mind, but in the best way imaginable.

Today’s lesson: Don’t waste your time on people who don’t value spending time with you. You are special, you are important, and you deserve someone who makes you feel like that.

I Am Finally Clean.

This is a little bit heavier than almost anything I will ever post on here, but I like to keep things real and would love for you all to know a little more of my story.

I’m 24 and have just had one serious boyfriend.

I’ve never really been boy crazy, and I consider myself a really independent person. Even from a young age I’ve always been good at being myself regardless of the environment I’m in, and even when I am seeing someone my good friends are always a priority in my life. I don’t believe in losing yourself and giving your life completely to someone else; rather, I think they should be a great addition to life.

Anyway, even with a good head on my shoulders, I never realized just how unhealthy my relationship was in it’s last year until I got out of it.

I think we’d both agree the breakup was “mutual,” but sadly I didn’t end things when they became unfair to me. I stayed in a really hard, kind of messed up situation a lot longer than I’m proud of.

I’m a fixer and am far too patient for my own good. I almost always put others first, even when I shouldn’t, and I trust people — especially those who I am closest to.

I was in the classic situation where everything became centered around what my significant other wanted, and neglected my own needs.

Guys, this all happened while I had been dealing with a serious chronic illness. The biggest red flag is when you are going through something life-changing and your partner can’t make the time to be there for you. In sickness and in health is one of the most important vows you will make in your life, and you better be sure the person you want to spend forever with has your back too.

Leaving was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done — I was essentially losing a best friend of 5 years — but it’s honestly one of the best decisions I have made.

I have now made room to find someone who will make me a priority, and I am so excited to eventually be with a man who will be just as selfless in our relationship as I will be. Love is all about compromise and putting someone else’s needs along side your own, and I can’t wait to be in a relationship that looks like that again one day.

In the meantime I am enjoying having extra time to snuggle with my puppy, read, write, and continue to improve myself. After all, I will be with me for the rest of my life, so why not try to be the best Krista I can be?

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Taylor Swift’s song “Clean” is on point.