I was right!!!
I know those aren’t unusual words for a female to utter, but this was with a bet I had going with a bunch of other girls.
Remember how I talked about getting ghosted recently?
To recap, I sent my date a text after we hadn’t talked in about two weeks. He and I had a really nice date, and I was kind of confused as to why he wouldn’t want to go on a second one with me.
My only thought was that he did live kind of far away, so maybe that was deterring him from going on another date. But why wouldn’t he just text me and let me know if that was the case?
Some of my friends thought he might have found someone else. Others thought he got the vibe I wasn’t into hooking up, so lost interest. I have really great friends, so none of them suggested that he didn’t like me, which could have also easily been the case. I think that’s what most people who get ghosted feel is the issue, but I am on a mission to prove them wrong.
As I stated in my last post, I don’t think anything has to even go wrong on a date for someone to get ghosted. It could be something you can’t really control, like a lack of chemistry, or your date just has something else going on in his life.
Ready to see what he sent me? Remember, I had to text him first to get this mystery solved. Most people never know why they don’t ever hear from a date again, but I’m willing to bet this is a pretty common reason.
I really appreciated his honesty. He was a really nice guy, and I’m sure he’ll find his Tinderella somewhere closer to him. I do understand why you wouldn’t want to get too invested in someone you just met who lives so far away, and I respected his answer.
Today’s lesson: Don’t take it personally if someone ghosts you. It probably isn’t something you did, so just pick yourself up and try again. There are plenty of other fish in the sea!
On the other end of things, instead of ghosting someone, just explain nicely that things just aren’t going to work out. If the person is a normal, mature adult they will understand.
Krista Lauren 
Woah, he practically sent a book in response! Good work actually getting closure, shows what can happen when you ask.
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I know, right?! I didn’t feel like I needed it or anything, as we only went on one date, but I thought it’d be cool to pick his brain a little, and really appreciated him being so on board with it!
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Good for you for asking him and good for him for being honest with you. This may be wrong but I personally think that ghosting on someone after one date isn’t a big deal. After one date, I don’t think you necessarily owe anyone an explanation but it is nice to get one.
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Yes, I agree completely! I didn’t actually expect to hear back from him and would have been fine with that… I feel like the first few dates you really just barely know each other, and can’t take things like that personally. It’s a lot better to get ghosted after just a few dates than after you really know someone well!
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Love how both of you were straight with each other and got right to the point, rather than beating around the bush. I feel like the more direct you are with guys, the more comfortable they’ll be with you.
But can we discuss the Las Vegas portion? Literally tonight’s call has to be about this XD
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Yeah, I agree with that! I think people often surprise you with how clear and honest you can be. That’s what I am trying to show others who get so caught up on someone who isn’t texting them back. They should either move on or just text the person and ask if they’re interested! And we will totally talk about it tonight, haha. 😛
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