Time Is Love

Did you know that there are guys who want to spend time with you more than anything else in the world?

A few years ago I didn’t know men like that existed — at least not for me. I had dated people who didn’t make a lot of time to talk with me or know my heart, and I assumed this was just the way guys were wired (Oh young Krista, I’m so glad you were given more life experience to find that this is absolutely not the case).

Something I decided was important when I jumped back into the dating world was that I would eventually be with someone who prioritized things the same way I did. This meant that above all else, he valued his relationships and family, rather than material things like wealth or a job.

In hindsight, it’s really interesting to see how people’s priorities are shown so vividly in real life. It’s really easy to put on paper that your significant other is a priority, but putting it to practice is a whole different ballgame. In the past I’ve been told that I’m a #1 priority, only to lose every single time when I went up against studying, work, or even a television show. There was a time in my life that I realized I wasn’t worth a short phone call. I went to bed every night realizing that, which steadily beat down my own self-worth.

Robert and I live five minutes away from each other and we see each other just about every day. Despite knowing we will catch up with one another in the evening, he has invited me to meet him for lunch in the middle of the workday, as he genuinely wants to see me and have a fun, spontaneous date. He calls me on his way home from work just to say “hello” — and remind me of how bad the DC traffic can be. Even while he was deployed he made time to talk to me every single day he possibly could. Robert is committed to putting me first, just as I am to him.

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Robert invests his time in Jax and I. We both definitely have his back, always, no matter what. πŸ™‚

If your significant other tells you that they don’t have time to spend with you on a regular basis it isn’t because they can’t — it’s simply because you aren’t prioritized above whatever else they have going on in their life. I know that is so hard to hear, but the bright side to this is that I know you can absolutely find someone who prioritizes you the way you prioritize them. Please, please, please don’t settle for a relationship that leaves your heart yearning for so much more. There are people in this world who would give anything to be able to love you the way you want them to.

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Today’s Lesson: The reason I named this post “Time Is Love” is because what you put your time into is what you love most in this life. Time is the most fleeting, valuable commodity we are given, and you know you truly have someone’s heart if they are giving you their time. Yes, people have to work to live and will always have seasons in their life when things are a bit busier than usual, but overall you should be able to very clearly see whether or not you are a priority in someone’s life. Your heart will be so much happier being able to love the right person as much as you want to without feeling like you need to hold back.

Wait for the person who will let you love them without limits because you know they’ll do the same for you. It may not be the first, second, or third person you meet, but finding the right person who will speak your love language is so worth the wait.

11 thoughts on “Time Is Love

  1. I agree with this for the most part. But sometimes seeing each other on a daily or regular basis isn’t always feasible. The person you start dating could be following a passion, a dream, have a demanding schedule, etc. I do think that the most important thing is communication in situations like this. Expectations on both ends should be addressed and a compromise made where everyone is happy but neither one needs to completely give up something that was important to them long before the relationship started.

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    1. Yes I agree completely!! I’ve done a lot of long distance in my life and know you can have a healthy relationship without seeing one another every day. I also think it’s important to each have your own dreams; and some people will want a job or financial goals more than a relationship and I think that’s even fine too as long as they’re on the same page. Thanks for the comment, I definitely agree with you! ❀

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      1. They’re fantastic! I’ve always had black labs, but all labs are great! You may may lose a shoe or two in the deal, but you’ll never regret having a lab in the house. πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

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      2. No, we’ve had rescue dogs for our last two dogs, and a Brittany spaniel prior to that. That’s one breed that I will never own again. They are super energetic, and very headstrong. She was a terrific bird dog, but she would cover her scent with anything she could find, including dead, manure, and the pond.

        Hopefully though, a black lab will be the next puppy we have. πŸ˜ƒ

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  2. It’s indeed worth waiting for that right person who is ready to invest their time in the relationship and both speak same love language😁 I love that word ‘love language’, it sums it all up. It’s hard to find that person but it’s really worth waiting. Lovely postπŸ’–

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    1. Definitely I agree with you completely! It’s so hard finding the right person, but it is worth waiting for. I dated the wrong people a really long time before finding the right one, but I couldn’t be happier about how everything is turning out. πŸ™‚

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