There are certain things that are red flags to girls, and I figured I would help y’all make your dating profiles just a little bit better. Here are a few things I have seen time and time again and hope you don’t have in your online profile:
“I’m one of the good guys. Everyone else on here is a tool and will use you.”
I don’t like this because the fact of the matter is that it’s just not true. I have been out with so many really nice guys who just haven’t worked out because of a lack of chemistry or things in common — this just makes it seem like you have trouble getting along with others. I’d like my future boyfriend to have his own group of friends, as that’s a sign he’s likeable and can maintain a relationship.
“Don’t message me if you’re just looking for validation.”
Okay, I get it. There are people who are on dating sites just there to swipe and never meet up. That doesn’t mean everyone is the same, though; you’ll be able to figure out pretty quickly why someone has a dating profile. If your plans keep falling through with the same person just move on to the next one!
“Not looking for a high maintenance girl.”
Let’s be real. Relationships do take some sort of maintenance and this makes me feel like you might really not be willing to put work into ours down the road. I’d say for a girl I am require a medium amount of maintenance, but I also enjoy putting work into a romance to make things special for my guy too. I understand you don’t want a girl who is going to take advantage of you, but that’s what going on a few dates is for — getting to know the person you might eventually become exclusive with!
“Only swipe right if you actually look like your pictures.”
Okay, I agree that you should try to accurately represent yourself in an online profile, but this just rubs me the wrong way. Most guys I’ve been out with have said they’ve had a similar experience with this in that a girl doesn’t look like her photos — I can relate; I’ve been there before too. It isn’t your job, though, to police these girls with your profile. If anyone is trying to be deceitful hopefully they will quickly realize they are only hurting themselves.
And if you go out with a girl like this? Be nice, and sit through a drink with her before excusing yourself. If you’re open to getting to know someone’s heart you might just make a great new friend.
“My friend made me make this account.”
Or any variation of “I only did this because someone else told me to,” or, “I know this is lame, but I’m not a typical ‘online guy.'”
This, in my opinion, is one of the biggest time-wasters on a dating profile. Why? Because I’m on here too, so I clearly don’t think you are lame for having an account. You don’t need to explain yourself; just tell me a little about what makes you you! If anything this statement makes me feel like you aren’t that into going out with people you meet online since you think it’s so silly.
What do y’all think? Do any of you have this information in your profile and disagree with me? Let me know in the comments. 🙂
2 thoughts on “Guys: What NOT To Put In Your Dating Profile”
Great tips! In general people should avoid any language that sounds negative, when a positive spin could be used. Especially when that positive spin is something to aspire to.
“Not looking for a high maintenance girl.” immediately puts people on the defensive, where as the same sentiment could be conveyed by saying that you’re “Looking for someone who is down to earth”, or “I like women who are as comfortable in heels as they are in sneakers” or something similar to that.
YES, this was so well-said!! Those are excellent tips for making a dating profile. People who are super-negative or cynical are always a turnoff, but that’s a way to find someone you’d like and be positive about it still. Thanks for the comment! 🙂
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